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Why is it so hard for men to admit they are committed? They say they are not single but they are not committed either!!! Does it make any sense? You are either committed or your not.
If that person makes you happy why not admit that you want to be with that person and not anyone else?
Committment doesn’t mean you can’t go out with your guy friends or you can’t talk to any of ur girfriends the only thing it means is you are happy with that person and you want to be with her either for the rest of your life or for couple months or years! So if you are then mention it and let everyone know you are not single. What is wrong with people knowing you are with someone? On the otherhand if you think you are not ready for a seriouse relationship tell her, tell her your are not ready yet and you need more time. But don’t play with peoples emotion it’s just not righ!t

I heared alot of pepople saying they can’t be friends with their exs. I think its depends on what kind of relashionship you had with that person. A lot of times you can’t be friend becuse you might still have a feelings for that person and its hard for you to see that person moved on and now is happy with someone else. If you think you moved on and there is no feelings attached then maybe you can be friends. You are not going to have a perfect relashionship but you can have that person as a friend to talk to once in awhile just remember to keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer LOL. Since you don’t know what ur ex is capable of you better know what your doing, dont make him mad… I’m sure you know why!!. Sometimes they do harrible things just to make your life miserable. Just watch who you are dealing with specially with guys!

Why do you think mens cheat? Is it because they are not happy? or is it because they are too good to be with only one person?
In Iran its common for men to cheat they say its a law.. But when you ask them were is written they say ” its a law that every men and women knows about it.” The funny thing about it is, women can’t cheat and if they do it’s not acceptable!! Which means men can cheat and if you find out about it you have to forget it and act like nothing happened, but if women cheat.. you don’t want to know what’s going to happen lol. I personally believe if men can cheat women can do the same thing and the only reason most women don’t cheat is because they care about their relationship and they don’t want to ruin it. So dudes either don’t cheat and if you cheat be prepaid!! Because what goes around comes around.

Do things unexpectedly.
One key secret to a successful relationship is compromise. Meeting halfway on things shows your partner that you really do care about their viewpoint and you are willing to work on making each other happy. Every so often make it a point to do something that you normally would not agree to or feel like doing. When you keep your partner constantly surprised by your actions, you regenerate that “new love” feeling time and time again. So, when your partner asks if you want to try that new restaurant…say yes! If they ask if you want to try a new hobby…say yes!

Show your loyalty.
Nothing strengthens a relationship quite like watching your partner go to bat for you, especially against close friends or family members. It shows that you consider your relationship a team. If you harass one member of a team, you harass them all. When you side with other people against your partner you make them feel alienated and the seeds of hidden resentment become planted. You can show loyalty positively as well by bragging about your partner’s recent accomplishments to friends and family.

Be supportive.
Challenges and opportunities are always going to occur. You can’t stop them from happening. Hopefully for both of you the changes in your lives are positive ones. The secret key here is having a supporting and understanding mate in your corner to help you through your ups and downs. If you lose your job, it’s quite a bit easier to bounce back when you have someone who’s willing to support your choices and any new directions you might want to branch out to. If you want a career or lifestyle change, imagine the difference having someone who will carefully consider and support those changes? When your partner is presenting you with a challenge or an opportunity, treat them the way you’d want to be treated.

Maintain a healthy dose of individuality.
Personal time and space are essential to growing individually. Everyone one needs private time to do the things they want to do. It helps refocus attention to the priorities. Sometimes you or your partner may just need time to release emotions from a bad day, instead of bringing it home with them. Learning to respect and notice when your partner needs some individual time shows that you are committed to not only your relationship, but their long-term happiness as well.

Love your partner.
Love is obviously a crucial element in a successful long-term relationship. But having love isn’t enough. You need to be in love. The phrase “love is a verb, not a noun” certainly applies here. Don’t hesitate to write that quick love note, give that deep kiss, sit next to each other at a restaurant or hold hands in public. The little things go a long way towards establishing a deep, intimate connection with your partner. As simple as it sounds, this action is probably the most commonly overlooked and ignored

Traditional goal-setting wisdom has taught us that a good goal must be a) written, b) challenging, c) believable, d) specific, e) measureable, and f) have a specific deadline. Unfortunately, it’s not too difficult to think of an example that directly challenges any of the above goal-setting criteria. For instance, the goal “to live a more spiritual life” may be a valuable, meaningful goal for many, but it’s hardly measurable and assigning a deadline makes little sense for a permanent alteration of lifestyle.

This traditional checklist of things that “make a good goal” is largely a product of old technology: pen and paper. The old-school of goal-setting suggested that people write down goals on a small slip of paper and keep it in their wallet or purse. Suffice to say that slips of paper rapidly dissolve into lint. Today we have email.

A different question is, “What makes a good Goalplan?” On this, our position is precise: A good Goalplan is one that when followed, offers a reasonably high probability of success, given sufficient time.

1. Don’t compare yourself to others. Every body is different. It stands to reason that everybody will lose weight differently.
2.Identify your ideal weight. If you’re 5′5″ with a certain build, there’s an ideal weight that matches your body type. Find it - and make that your goal.
3.Scale up. If your measurement tool sucks, upgrade it. If it’s analog, dump it.
4.One pound a week. If you’re not losing at least one pound a week on your chosen weight loss regimen, you’re (a) stalled, or (b) finished. You might need to push yourself even harder, or (in some cases) let up a little bit while your body plays catch-up. If you lose more than one pound a week, then you’re doing better than average. Expecting to lose five pounds a week just isn’t realistic, though.
5. Walk the walk. You burn calories when you walk, did you know that? Certainly, you don’t expend as much energy as you do when you run, but you burn it nonetheless.

1. Dietary control and exercise. It’s true what they say - all you need to do is watch what you eat, and expend more energy than you consume. It’s really that simple.
2. Change your lifestyle. If you’re calling this a “diet,” then you’re going to gain all the weight back (and more) within a few months of losing it. Diets do not work. Diets are temporary. When you change your dietary lifestyle, however, you’re changing your habits - and you’re putting yourself on track for long-term / continued success and weight maintenance. Don’t ever tell anybody you’re on a diet - ever.
3. Start reading labels. I know it sucks, but you have to do it - and there’s no way to avoid this tip. If you don’t know what you’re putting in your mouth, you’re flying blind. Don’t assume, either - triple-check the ingredients list and serving sizes. You must rely on yourself for this; nobody else is going to be able to lose the weight or do the math for you. It’s not that complicated a task, but it will require effort. If nothing else, just pay attention to the calorie count.
4.Identify your exercise. No exercise was created equal. You might like running, so run. You might like jogging, so jog. You might like stationary bikes, so bike stationarily. Find the one that works best for you - that isn’t too much of a chore for you to do regularly throughout the week. Don’t pick a routine that you don’t like - or you won’t want to do it, and you certainly won’t stick with it for long.
5. Set realistic goals. You can lose 50 pounds in a week if you work out 12 hours a day and eat nothing but celery - but not if you’re human. Slow and steady wins the race. Don’t bite off more than you can chew - literally. Make small goals on your way to the bigger goal(s). In the end, you’ll have achieved more.

1. Make friends. If there is someone that works or lives near you that seems devoid of a friend, reach out and help them. It is incredible the difference one person can make if they become another’s friend.
2. Read. Read all of the time and about everything. People admire smart peers, and being well-educated means that you will be able to stick up for what you believe in by using fact.
3. Live life to the fullest. Try out for that school sport. Volunteer at the soup kitchen. Write that journal. Fill your life to the brim with rewarding activities and enjoy the blessings that come of them.
4.  Boost your intelligence.The ability to perform mental tasks with ease in invaluable; taking simple steps in your daily life will help you to cultivate your brain power.
5. Finish college. If you haven’t gone yet, make a plan to do so. There are so many opportunities that you are missing out on if you refrain from getting a formal education. Job opportunities will be opened up, you will gain respect from colleagues, along with the bonus asset that you become more intelligent. It is never to late to go to school.
6. Help others. If your best friend is in need of a lift, take him with you on your way to work. If your son is having trouble with his homework, try to take time to help him. When you help others, it not only makes you feel good, but you gain others’ trust, which is invaluable to have. Helping out can also be a learning experience.
7. Spend time with your family. It is truly a learning experience to all of you. Spending quality time away from the T.V. can help you delve into the minds and hearts of your loved ones, allowing you to help them with any problems they may be experiencing and getting to genuinely know them. Studies have shown that children that eat dinner as a family are less likely to do drugs, alcohol, or be depressed. Just fifteen minutes a day with family can deeply help everyone involved.
8. Stay active. Being healthy and fit allows you to perform more tasks with ease and precision. Just thirty minutes of activity a day can help you lead a healthier, longer, more fruitful life. So what are you waiting for?
   source: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Better-Person

by Michael McGrath 

We have all heard about the “power of positive thinking” but does it really work?

The quick answer is yes and the long answer is no!

What do I mean by that you may well ask? Well your thinking does create your reality but it’s your predominant thinking that does this not just spouting a few affirmations for a few minutes a day and thinking that everything is going to magically sort itself out! The main reason why people fail to use the power behind positive thinking is because they do not fully understand the concept. If you take a barrel full of rotten apples and then just toss some fresh succulent apples in on top of it what happens? Yes, you guessed it, the nice fresh apples soon become spoiled. This is exactly what happens to most people’s positive thoughts when they first try to use the power of positive thinking for their own personal development.

They fail in to utilize their God-given power of thought to its full extent. Think Positive by all means but do it right! Your subconscious mind is very much like the barrel and it is filled with rotten apples (negative thoughts) by throwing fresh apples (positive thoughts) on top you just make it worse because you are setting yourself up for failure. You need to change your beliefs at a deep level.

Basically everyone has self doubt, just to a lesser or greater degree. When we meet apparent failure we set up a thinking process in the subconscious mind which plays like a record on loop saying “you can’t do it” or “you just aren’t good enough” when we encounter a similar situation. This causes yet another “failure”. Thinking positive does work but only if it is used correctly. Identify your weaknesses and begin to change them. Why are you thinking negatively? There must be a reason. I am sure you can give me hundreds. Look at the negative thought and believe and change it. Why aren’t you good enough? Challenge the belief. Perhaps it has validity. If it does then change yourself so that it is no longer true!

Contrary to popular “new age thinking” some negative beliefs are true! “I can’t run a mile in four minutes” is probably not negative thinking - its more than likely realistic! If you want to run a mile in four minutes you need to change that belief through a physical training program! The negativity that comes up from that may be “I can’t put in the time involved to get into that type of physical shape”. This type of negative thinking is just that - negative thinking. If you really want to run a four minute mile you will find a way to make the time.

In your life in general you may wish to yourself as a winner and negative thinking gets in the way. You can combat this through a correct personal development plan. Identify your negative beliefs and begin to change them one at a time. Don’t just ignore them and ramble a load of affirmations and vague positive thoughts. Tackle them and kill them at their root. You can eliminate negativity from your life but you need to empty the barrel of rotten apples first. Then when the barrel is clean you can fill it up with positivity and your life will be transformed.

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